Monday, September 10, 2007

Fun Monday - Do Unto Others

Nikki is hosting this week's Fun Monday, the challenge this week was truly a challenge. Not a challenge in the sense of it being something tough to do (although, for some, it may actually be), but more a challenge in terms of the fact that she wanted us to get out there and do something. And not just do something, but do something nice.

In her own words:

"We've seen your shelves, peeked inside your cabinets, looked at what your house looks like in both the summer and winter, viewed at some of our handmade pieces and even talked about our best friends. Now it's time we do something. Have you ever had someone out of the goodness of their heart do something for you without anything asked in return? Offered you money when you needed it the most? Helped you change a flat tire in the pouring rain or even just simply held the door open for you when you had your hands full? For Monday, September 10th, we are challenged with doing a good deed. I am not looking for a story of when you have offered your help in the past, I actually want you in the next two weeks to go out and help someone. Go visit a nursing home, cook dinner for someone sick or with a new baby, donate to a charity or even send just a "thinking of you card" to someone who needs it. It doesn't matter what your good deed is, or how great it is. It just needs to help someone!"

So there you have it, we had our marching orders. Of course, I, being the space case that I am, promptly forgot all about it for two weeks. Thankfully, I am actually the sort of person who performs mini-good deeds on a pretty regular basis, so those two weeks did not go by without my doing nice things. I know the rules say I was supposed to PURPOSELY go out and perform good deeds during these two weeks. And maybe I didn't do them with Fun Monday in mind...but they happened within the two weeks anyway, so I'm going to say they count.

I also feel like I shouldn't be taking credit for some of these things, because they aren't really done with expectations of recognition...I do these things because I should, because it matters that I do...but, it is Fun Monday, so here goes:

  • My friend DD's grandmother passed away on Tuesday last week. She had been ailing for quite a while now, and her passing wasn't necessarily a surprise, but as with the loss of any loved one, it was still a tough time for my friend and her family. I worked an extremely busy and full day on Tuesday, and then had to do my grocery shopping after work (which happens to be my least favorite chore). I was exhausted and couldn't wait to get home. Yet, I made it a point to stop by DD's house on my way home, to give her a hug, and just hang out with her for a bit. This is what friends do, and there really wasn't much thought to it, I knew instantly, upon hearing of her loss, that I would do it.
  • I made it through the week without smacking any of my coworkers. This may not sound like a good deed, but trust me, if you'd had to deal with some of the stuff I dealt with last week, you'd know.
  • On Friday the weather was gorgeous, and knowing it might be one of the last evenings of the year that I might get to enjoy the pool, I was looking forward to rushing to mom's (and the pool) right after work. However, DD's grandmother's wake was on Friday evening. Therefore, I headed there after work instead, and wound up skipping the pool in favor of offering my friend some support.
  • Yesterday I invited mom to go shopping with me. We headed off to the Christmas Tree Shop and surrounding stores. Obviously someone slipped a nastiness pill into the water yesterday, because EVERYONE we encountered had a mood to be reckoned with. The fact that I didn't hurt anyone on this shopping escapade could certainly be considered my good deed, but I took it one step further. When we stopped at a grocery store to pick up some items, our cashier was a young teenage boy with a smile on his face, and actual interest in interacting with his customers. Before I left I made sure to thank him for being the first "pleasant" cashier we had encountered all day. I told him he'd made our day, and by the smile on his face, I could tell I'd made his.

Here's what I know about performing so called "good deeds": if you make them a regular part of your daily life, it actually does make a difference. Not only do you influence the world around you, but it lifts your spirits as well. It's kind of like that commercial where one person holds a door for someone, and that person goes on to pick up a dropped toy, and so on and so forth. A smile begets a smile...try it, you might surprise yourself.

Be sure to visit Nikki for other do-gooders. And next week's fun Monday is being hosted by Sayre. Be sure to stop by.

15 comments:

FRIGGA said...

The best part about doing these sorts of things is how good I end up feeling! And super Kudos on the being there for your friend, I'm sure she appreciated it greatly. :-)

Beckie said...

Well said - make it part of your every day life!

I'm still going to email you about facebook - just haven't gotten around to it yet...

Joy T. said...

Great post Karina! Lots of good deeds. And are you on Facebook? I am too if you want to look me up. Or email me your name and I'll look YOU up. If not, that's ok too :o)

Robin said...

Those little things add up to be rather monumental over the course of a lifetime.

I wonder if Nikki's post/theme will cause somebody, a lot of bodies? to begin "doing good" (like you), just as a way to "do life". Wouldn't that be the coolest?

Frances said...

There is nothing worse than having to deal with attitude when you are handing out your hard earned cash.
There is nothing better than getting to a register and finding a pleasant greeting and a little can-do attitude.
Waving at you from New York,
Frances

ChrisB said...

I'm sorry to hear about your friend's loss. I have said similar on other posts, but I totally agree with you about making good deeds part of your daily life. It just becomes the norm and you don't even consider it a good deed. It was only thinking back for this post that I even considered the small things I had done in the last couple of weeks as a 'kindness to others'!

Tiggerlane said...

Excellent post - I have to remember that resisting the urge to slap someone is a good deed. Lord knows, I have to do it all the time!

Willowtree said...

Damn, if I realised that not hitting idiots could be classed as a good deed then I would have had lots to write about.

qualcosa di bello said...

karina, you said you didn't feel like you should be taking credit for your good deeds done without expectation of recognition...but...

look at it this way: reading these wonderful things (esp. on a monday) is a real pick-me-up & inspiration to your blogger friends...

so, yet another good deed for you!!! :)

AnGlOpHiLe FoOtBaLl FaNaTiC said...

I think you are a great friend. DD is lucky to have you.

Pamela said...

I can remember when I was about 16 --- and a man in the store made a special effort to be pleasant to my sister and me.

I felt so wonderful. It changed my life -- it truly did.
I'd been thinking that I was worthless - and he made me feel worthy.

we never know how much we can effect someone elses world.

Beccy said...

When I was thinking of how to write this post I was looking for one big deed but you're so right, it's the little things that matter.

Annie said...

When I was much younger and pregnant with my second child, my ex-husband lost his job. That Christmas an unknown person(s) left on our door step a few presents for each of us, and fixings for an entire holiday dinner. To this day, I have no idea who did it - but a few years ago, we did this... and it was the most wonderful fun to be sneaking around on Christmas Eve in the dark to deliver the presents.

One bad thing, though... the family lived in a neighborhood with untrustworthy neighbors... so we called and tried to disguise our voice to the woman of the house - and I think we scared the crap out of her, because she was home alone - her husband had run to the store for something.

Annie said...

Um, I should have said why we called them... we didn't want the neighbors to steal the gifts before the family was aware that there were any gifts out there.

JennieBoo said...

What a wonderful post.

You are a sweetheart!