Thursday, June 14, 2007

Thirteen Things I love about BEING SINGLE

Now, before all the coupled people out there attack me on this, I want to make it clear that I’m not knocking relationships or love. I think they are a beautiful thing, and maybe one day I’ll find myself in both of those situations again. That said, I am single, have been single for quite a while now, and I am not one of those women who spends all her time looking for a man to complete her so she can begin her life. I am complete, and I am living my life NOW. I am loving my life as it is, as a single woman in her 30’s. Life is good, surrounded by great friends, a wonderful family, and my independence from what society tells me I should be doing. And just like there are perks to being in a relationship, there are definite perks to being alone. Here are my top 13, in no particular order:

1. I don’t have anyone stealing my covers at night, and have my big bed all to myself.

2. When I leave work, I can go home, or go out, and don’t have to check with anyone else about what his plans were for that evening.

3. No gifts to buy on Valentine’s Day, one less birthday to buy for, one less Christmas gift to purchase. (Actually, I love buying gifts, so this isn’t a very strong reason).

4. I can change plans at a moment’s notice if I want to, take off for a long weekend, or spend a Saturday at home all day in my pj’s without anyone feeling “neglected”.

5. Closet space…I don’t have to share my closets…EVERY CLOSET in my house is MINE, all mine!

6. I can go all winter without shaving my legs if I want to (okay, maybe not ALL winter, even I can’t stand that).

7. I can watch whatever I WANT on television, and never have to give up the remote. ;-)

8. I have the pride of owning my own home, all by myself, and paying all of my bills on my own. Knowing I can take care of myself, even when money is tight, is an incredibly powerful feeling.

9. I can still have the fantasy that one day I will meet Mr. Right, and imagine all the wonderful things he will be. And I still have that excitement you get when a stranger smiles at you that you can flirt back without feeling guilty. The “what if” is a wonderful thing.

10. Imagine all the things I’ll have to blog about when I decide I’m ready to head back into the dating world?

11. I have a larger group of female friends than most women I know, because due to being single for this long, I’ve surrounded myself with the most amazing women and had the time to cultivate and nourish these friendships.

12. I’ve gotten to make the “always a bridesmaid, never a bride” thing not only a reality, but also a positive thing. I’ve learned all the things NOT to do when it does come time for my wedding, and all the important things I should focus on.

13. Unlike most of my friends who are married, I don’t have to hide my purchases in my car until “he’s not home” to see me bring them in. Why do women do that anyway? You work for your money right? I can buy all the shoes I want without having some man tell me I have too many shoes. MEN, repeat after me: “There is no such thing as too many shoes”.

I just reread that list…yep, its no wonder I’m still single, I’m going to be ONE DIFFICULT girlfriend after all this time alone! Ha!

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Anonymous said...

As a single 38 year old woman, all I can say is "amen sista"! It's about time somebody focused on the positives of the single life, so thank you, thank you, thank you!

Anonymous said...

I've been single and I've been married so I know both are great. Your list makes all the sense in the world and I love how you're living life to the fullest, just like I'm sure you would if you were in a relationship. Attitude is key to anything and you have a great attitude!

MommaBoo said...

All valid and well-spoken points.

ESPECIALLLY about the shoes, wedding pointers and no having to "hand over" the remote!

Still, I think I'm more complete as a wife. But that's me.

Rebecca said...

Newly single me loves your list! Especially #'s 2, 5 and 9!!!!

Happy TT13 - mines up at Any Apples

Wicked H said...

Very refreshing to see a positive spin on being single. I too am single at soon to be 45.

Well done!

Mom not Mum (Sandy) said...

Great list. I'm not single but I can see a lot of truth in your list. #1 and #13 - oh and several in the middle. I think you can add a #14 - I can get a bowl of icecream without asking anybody else if they want one. LOL

Angela/SciFiChick said...

Too true!
I agree with all except #12 to a point.. I loathe weddings. I'll never agree to be a bridesmaid again. And if and when I get married, I'll be eloping. Or at least just a casual affair on a beach.

Literary Feline said...

A fun list! I am glad you are comfortable being single, Karina. I see too many women in my job stay with the wrong men (or vice versa) because they feel they have to have the significant other to make them whole. I love my husband and wouldn't want to give him up for anything, but I do know that if I had to be on my own, I could.

As to the sneaking purchases in when hubby isn't around . . . It's to avoid that look and head shake that comes when I've bought another stack of books to add to my already overflowing TBR collection. LOL I really don't have to hide anything. He figures it out eventually--usually sooner than later because we share the responsibility of the finances--and we really don't have many secrets (except maybe what I'm getting him for our anniversary).

bichonpawz said...

This TT deserves an award! I agree with you on ALL counts! You GO Girl!!